Write Your Gratitude Resume

I always get a chuckle in my talks when I ask my audience if anyone has stress in their lives. Stress is so epidemic that we have to laugh about it, as if it goes with the territory of just being alive.

What I believe is underlying most of our stress is fear – fear of not being enough, not doing enough and not having enough.

One way gratitude helps with this is by teaching us to appreciate ourselves. 

As a Mom, I often find myself in this predicament. No matter how hard I try, things don’t always go as planned. My child gets overtired and melts down unexpectedly. I pack the car for a road trip and forget a swimsuit. I plan a delicious dinner but everyone is hangry before it’s ready. Mom fails happen. 

Enter the perfect antidote – the Gratitude Resume!

The Gratitude Resume is something you can do to help you stay focused on how much you do,  every day, instead of focusing on what you didn’t do. 

Once you sit down and start to write out all the things you do, whether you’re a Mom, a daughter, a friend, an employee, a Dad, a teacher, something else or any combination of the above, it’s likely you have no idea how valuable you are.

So take a look at what I came up with when I decided to write my own Gratitude Resume for my most important position: Mom. Then take a moment to give it a try for yourself.


Lorraine Miller
Mom Extraordinaire

Current Position (2013-present): Mom

Position includes: Personal Advisor, Mediator, Wardrobe Consultant, Refrigerator Inventory Manager, Cook, Baker, Sandwich-maker, Laundress, Band-Aid applier, Teacher, Homework Helper, Social Coordinator, Chauffeur, Travel Planner, Home Organizer/De-Clutterer, Nurse, Sleep Whisperer, Food Shopper, Meal Planner, Dish Washer, Housekeeper, Master Hugger, Master Snuggler, Task Juggler, Cheerleader, and Best Friend.

Special Skills include: 

Shoe tying, giving baths, finding lost toys, wallets and phones, making beds, kissing and rubbing boo-boo’s, packing lunches and snacks, giving reminders, negotiating terms, enforcing rules, creating routines, instilling tradition, inspiring teams, rallying troops, managing social calendars, empowering children, building character, teaching wellbeing.

Availability: 24/7/365


One of my favorite things about gratitude is that it truly is an antidote to stress. So try this self-gratitude exercise and please post in the comments how it is for you!





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The thing about smartphones

Recently I’ve been selling my gratitude goods at my local farmer’s market and have been meeting so many great people who stop by to talk gratitude, make a thank you card with their kids, or buy a book, shirt or candle. 

A few weeks ago, a young man in his twenties named Peter shared with me that “writing stuff down” (i.e. what he is grateful for) has been really helpful for him.

I told him about my free app so he could practice gratitude right on his phone. 

What he said next was shocking.

He told me he doesn’t have an iPhone anymore.

“That’s ok,” I said. “It works on Android too.”

“No,” he said. “I have a flip phone. I find I’m much happier without a smart phone.”

“I believe it,” I said. 

“Yeah, but my generation has it so much worse,” he said.

“Good for you that you made that switch,” I said. 

In the past year especially, I have seen more and more articles about the link between smart phones and depression, anxiety and even suicide, especially in teens and young adults.

On the plus side, our phones keep us connected, informed, and able to record and share our experiences instantly. 

The downside is they take us away from actually living and experiencing life in the moment (which by the way is the key to happiness). Tweet this!

What Peter has done for himself is profound.

He has stepped away from the cultural norm and found what works for him. Kudos to Peter for having that courage!!!

He made me think, what are some things I have done to make myself happier?

Here’s what I came up with:

  • I have learned to prioritize sleep. 
  • I have found what foods make me feel good and I avoid those that don’t. 
  • I make an effort to schedule fewer activities for myself and my family, recognizing that less is more. 

These things may not seem like much, but they are actually the foundation for MY happiness and it’s taken me years to fully embrace these things in my life. These things are what happened for me when I started to focus on creating bliss.

My next goal? To limit my phone usage to designated times during the day like only noon-12:15 and 5-5:15pm. I’m already excited to see what I’ll do with all that extra time!

If you haven’t seen it yet, check out the documentary, The Minimalists. It’s really quite fascinating. 

What’s something you can do to make yourself happier? Please share below!






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What if?

A few months ago I started reading Charlie and The Great Glass Elevator by Roald Dahl to my five year old son. I was cleaning out some boxes in my basement when I came across my copy (which my friend Ellen gave me for my ninth birthday–thank you Ellen!). 

I picked it up and thought, “This will be a fun read.”

And fun it is. I think we are on our fourth go-round. 

My favorite scene is this:

Charlie, along with his parents and four grandparents are traveling with Mr. Wonka in the Great Glass Elevator when things go awry. They have accidentally left the earth’s atmosphere and have gone into orbit when they encounter a group of United States astronauts aboard a “commuter capsule” en route to the first ever Space Hotel U.S.A. 

“What if they come after us?” said Mr. Bucket (Charlie’s father), speaking for the first time. 

“What if they capture us?” said Mrs. Bucket. 

“What if they shoot us?” said Grandma Georgina. 

“What if my beard were made of green spinach?” cried Mr. Wonka. 

“Bunkum and tummyrot! You’ll never get anywhere if you go about what-iffing like that. Would Columbus have discovered America if he’d said ‘What if I sink on the way over? What if I meet pirates? What if I never come back?’ He wouldn’t even have started!” 

As I chuckled, it occurred to me how many times I “what if” myself out of doing things.

In my business it goes something like this:

What if no one signs up for my workshop?

What if no one buys the new products I designed?

What if I burn out?

At home…

What if someone comes over and my house is a mess?

What if we run out of food at the party?

With big life decisions…

What if I screw up?

What if something terrible happens?

All this what iff-ing, has often pushed me to do my absolute best. But it also pushes me to perfectionism and that can lead to getting stuck and giving up, or not even trying at all.

My Dad, who passed away a few weeks before my 31st birthday, used to tell me:

“You can always find reasons NOT TO DO something. Why not focus on the reasons TO DO something?” Tweet this!

I wish I took his advice more often. Perhaps today is the day.

How about you? What things do you avoid doing because your what if’s get in the way?

Please post a comment below.

Much love,





Do you HAVE to?

My husband has always been my greatest teacher when it comes to being grateful. 

For Daniel, gratitude comes easy. It’s as if it’s in his DNA.

And perhaps it is. 

According to researchers at the Greater Good Science Center, there is actually a gene associated with gratitude. “CD38 is, in fact, significantly associated with a number of positive psychological and behavioral outcomes that are all intimately related to the expression of gratitude.”(1)

I, on the other hand, have had to continually work at cultivating gratitude, much like exercising. 

So it’s super cool that I have Daniel around to keep me on track with my training.

For example, Daniel loves correcting me when I say, something like, “I have to do laundry today.”  

“Lorraine, you GET TO do laundry,” he replies.

And he’s right. I GET to do laundry in our state-of-the-art modern washer and dryer that just happen to live right outside my kitchen. I don’t have to schlep to the laundromat or up and down a few flights of stairs like my younger twenty-something self did. And I GET to have clean clothes.

This one shift in language, “HAVE TO” vs. “GET TO,” whether you are saying it out loud or silently to yourself, can make all the difference in how your subconscious mind interprets your life. 

Because all day long we are constantly thinking about what we HAVE to do, am I right?  

This one shift in language helps us appreciate the journey. 

Whether’s it’s doing something menial like laundry or food shopping, or something more enjoyable, like for me, writing this blog post, we can either trudge through it or enjoy the ride.

It’s the difference between racing through the supermarket, hoping to get in and out the door as soon as possible, and never making eye contact with anyone vs. being inspired by a new vegetable, snack, or person you meet along the way.  

I used to get frustrated that food shopping with Daniel always felt like it was taking too long. But now I see the light. To him, shopping is not just something to check off the to-do list, which he does find pleasure in, but it’s also an experience to be had. It’s no wonder Trader Joe’s is Daniel’s favorite store. Listening to the music and sampling the free coffee or snack (pre-2020), all while shopping for tasty treats with him is something I actually look forward to now and leave extra time for—because I GET TO!

For today, take note of how many times you use the words, “have to” and see how it feels to shift into “get to” mode.

It could make all the difference in your day, week, month, or year and eventually your life starts to change for the better. 

Because you either HAVE to live this life, or you GET TO. Tweet this!

It’s all about perspective.

My advice? Be like Daniel.

Douse life with appreciation and wonder, and enjoy it fully, simply because you GET TO!

All my love,






(1) source: greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/love_gratitude_oxytocin

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